My dreams of travel in China seem rather perverse. This year I intended to visit several of the generic sights, the places you ’should’ go to, so that once that is out of the way I can visit the places I really want to go to. I have been told by many travellers that China is a difficult place for travellers. The food, language, culture and living conditions can seem a universe away from home. Everywhere travellers go they are met with blank faces, raised prices and varying degrees of suspicion. I find it useful to bear in mind the history of the country, particularly their interactions with the west, and in that context suspicion is no more unusual here than it would be in any part of the developing world. Bear that in mind and try to focus on the more open-minded of the people around you. With a little practise it becomes easy to differentiate between those who are likely to be friendly and those who will not. Focus on the friendly, give the others more time.
Still, travelling can seem to me like a task rather than something to be enjoyed. It is the experience of living in China which to me is the more worthwhile. The more familiar you become with your surroundings and the people the more friendly it will seem and simple things like repeated trips to the same restaurant rather than trying many different ones can make the difference between enjoyment and nervous exhaustion. I prefer to return to the same places and people, friends and familiar faces. For me the time here is not about the quantity of famous sights you can see in a holiday but rather the people you can meet, the half hour conversations with total strangers and the brief window into someone’s life. For that reason I like to spend a little longer at fewer places to get to know the area better and to see the things that I would be unable to notice if I was rushing about taking photographs.
A few tips:
Don’t try to see everything. Pick a few favourites, or ever better, choose a geographical area and travel within the south or within the north to cut down on travel fatigue and costs. If you enjoyed it maybe you will come back and see more. If you didn’t enjoy it your probably wouldn’t have enjoyed traversing the whole country anyway.
Put your easygoing hat on. The logic and the system of China is very different to home. Don’t get too worried or irritated if the day doesn’t go according to plan. Often those days turn out to be the best. Being easygoing helps immensely when it comes to travel conditions, language barriers and sanitation.
Smile. If someone smiles, smile. If someone says hello, say hello back. Except in tourist spots, outside airportsand train stations and so on where a certain amount of hustling for business goes on, when someone says hello they are just being friendly. In remoter areas the hellos become more frequent. Bear with it and keep smiling; you may have seen thousands of Chinese before, but often they have never seen a foreigner so if you are rude to them they will remember it and may treat other foreigners differently due to the reaction they get from you.
Buy a current guidebook or a really good map with Chinese phrases. Pointing and grunting is completely acceptable if done with a smile. Remember, China is a country with dozens of languages and hundreds of dialects so the Chinese themselves cannot always make themselves understood. However, speaking some basic Chinese is always helpful and eases difficult situations along.
Bargain. Sometimes you can cut the price as much as 50% and many shoppers and shopkeepers find the process fun and exhilarating. I myself dislike bargaining and have come to terms with the fact that I probably pay over-price for most things outside the supermarket. Many people say that the Chinese will cheat you but I always draw a very important difference between cheating your money and cheating yourself. That is to say that if money is taken out of the equation I find the Chinese to be honest and trustworthy. So if like myself you don’t like bargaining, decide whether you can afford or accept the price they offer and act accordingly, or take a friend who can bargain on your behalf. Just try to avoid smart-aleks who will point out how cheaply you could have bought it.
Last but not least: Look. Take the time to sit down and enjoy your surroundings. Spend a few days off the beaten track in the areas where the people are more typically Chinese and everything is more relaxed (and cheaper). Don’t always listen to what the guidebook says. Take a few risks, since so long as you have your address and enough money for a taxi home, you cannot go far wrong.
