Singular route to motherhood
Caroline Saddington’s route to motherhood did not follow the conventional path.
Her little bundle of joy, William Nicholas Thomas Saddington, weighed in at 8lb 9oz when he was born in the Queen’s Medical Centre, Nottingham, where she works as a sister in paediatrics.
Miss Saddington (36) of North Muskham, who is adopted, first considered that option.
She favoured adopting an abandoned baby and giving them a lifetime of love and care that they might not otherwise receive.
She spoke to an agency that opened negotiations with the Chinese authorities over a potential adoption.
She paid £2,500 of a required £5,000 fee before Chinese policy changed in 2006, closing the door to single people looking to adopt.
After further applications failed, the only option remaining was a domestic adoption, which could have taken another two years.
“Throughout my 20s I was very focused on my career,” said Miss Saddington.
“I would have been 38 before adoption became a reality.”
She decided to use a sperm donor and became pregnant at her first attempt at artificial insemination through the private Care clinic in Nottingham.
Miss Saddington said she could not see herself meeting someone and settling down and she would focus on giving her child her full and unconditional love.
Cradling her son, who was born at 9.31am on December 14, she said: “Things work out for a reason. I wouldn’t change him for the world. He is beautiful.
“It is amazing that after 35 years, one little person can turn your life upside down.”
She said that William would have many male influences through his godparents.
Miss Saddington said she would tell William how he was conceived when he was old enough to understand.
She said she was planning to have another child through a similar process.
She has reserved sperm from the donations made by William’s father, whom she will never know.
When she is ready, William will have a full brother or sister.
Miss Saddington’s mother, with whom she is staying, is the district and county councillor, Mrs Sue Saddington.
Mrs Saddington, also of North Muskham, adopted Caroline in 1973 when she was a baby and she and her husband were living in Canberra, Australia.
She said they were overwhelmed by the support from wellwishers in the village and further afield.
Mrs Saddington, who was unable to have children, said: “I have such a loving and trusting relationship with Caroline and it should be an inspiration to anyone who can’t conceive just how strong a bond it can be.
“I didn’t have grandchildren and thought that with Caroline single I never would, but now here he is and he is truly wonderful.
“He is a gift. I feel blessed.
“A lot of professional people are choosing Caroline’s route to parenthood now.
“This was not a one-night thing or a relationship that did not work out, but a well thought-out decision.”
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